Posted by mmcasey on June 9, 2003, at 9:54:44
In reply to Roommates » mmcasey, posted by whiterabbit on June 8, 2003, at 21:37:37
I've had numerous experiences with roomates. Mostly, my experiences have been like it is now - where I basically get along with them but don't feel entirely comfortable. I have had a few times when I actually was friends with roomates or felt more comfortable for whatever reason. I don't know why it's so hard. I have also had experiences where I didn't exactly NOT get along, but they really annoyed me tremendously!! It would be really nice to just feel comfortable and sit down and chat now and then.
Was this person who smelled like vapor rub in the military? I don't know - I guess maybe it's a stereotype that I have, but I just can't imagine someone in the military being like that. I feel like I am more along the lines of that, although I do not (!) wear a flannel nightgown and I do not smell like vapor rub! And I don't go to bed at 9:00. I guess the main thing is that I'm just not a partier.
I would like to live in a place of my own, but I just don't think I can afford it. Plus, I have these ideas of like "A to-be social worker should not want to live alone" and also that having roomates will force me to not isolate myself, and there is the possibility that I could be friends with them. I just don't want to allow myself to withdraw, especially since I really don't have other friends here. But I guess in some ways it's kind of ridiculous because having roomates doesn't really force me to not withdraw. I still withdraw by hanging out in my room and constantly avoiding them for the most part, and then feeling bad about it.
It's just all so ridiculous.
MMC
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