Posted by Medusa on December 27, 2002, at 5:46:41
In reply to Re: Not quite far enough from family., posted by Tabitha on December 27, 2002, at 2:47:42
> he complained about it for years.
Jeez. Where do these people get off? and why do we let them?
>since they're superficially nicer.
Superficially. You still buying that?
Can you be firm about them not staying with you, and firm about not having time for them?
Please try to protect yourself. I've tried the distance solution, and yes, it can be part of an improvement ... but saying NO and setting boundaries has to be in play, too.
My parents are on another continent, and it's taken a lot of NOs from me to keep them in their places. Mother whines to her friends about how much I've hurt her, and Duh forbids the kids from contact with me. Whatever. It's better than them STAYING with me so they can hang out for free in TouristTown. That's not closeness, it's delusion.
I'm sorry your father is such a self-doofer.
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