Posted by bluedog on December 25, 2002, at 23:59:59
In reply to Not quite far enough from family., posted by Tabitha on December 25, 2002, at 20:32:30
Hi Tabitha
I can only listen and offer my own experiences. MAYBE it can help put things into perspective for you.
> Here it is, delayed rage reaction to family contact.
I get this all the time and I have a close relationsip with my family. ==================================================================================================
>Then there's his utter ignorance of depression.
Even the closest of families usually display a complete ignorance (I would prefer to call it denial) of depression. In fact ignorance of depression is rampant in our society as I'm sure your completely aware of.
==================================================================================================>My dad thinks he can give him a pep talk that will cure him. He honestly thinks this.
I got my usual "pep" talk at our family christmas function yesterday. The only effect these pep talks have on me is to get me frustrated and angry and actually worsens my depression. MY own delayed reaction was to sabotage a perfectly positive and uplifting thread started by Dreamerz just above. (Dreamerz if your listening I'm STILL sorry!!!!)
==================================================================================================>He wants to hear all about some minor foot trouble I had, long after it had resolved, and I'd told him it had resolved, and he never asks how I'm doing moodwise, or medication-wise, or anything.
I think even close families feel uncomfortable when one of their members suffer from a (Oooh) "MENTAL ILLNESS" [add in the DR Evil quotation marks around the term <"MENTAL ILLNESS">] My family is actually happy to hear when I'm home from work with a physical illnes like the flu rather than me telling them the truth that I'm home with depression.
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I'm sorry if I can't offer any more but I can say that my thoughts are with you. Go and watch a few episodes of "Everybody loves Raymond". The family dynamics are pretty close to the bone in that TV series.WARM regards
bluedog
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