Posted by Eddie Sylvano on November 4, 2002, at 0:02:22
In reply to Re: love, validation, etc » Eddie Sylvano, posted by Ç®ëëþý Tabitha on November 1, 2002, at 13:39:33
> Eddie, can I interrupt our rant to ask if you ever tried any kind of support groups?
-------------------No. I was supposed to be part of a social phobia group, but for some reason, that never congealed, and I ran out of HMO visits to the counselor.
> Back to my ranting... I never felt particularly loved in any of my sexual relationships. I never even felt understood and accepted. Those needs are met much better by myself, my therapist, and a few select women friends.
-----------------That's a travesty. If there's one thing I've found that constitutes a meaning to life, it's loving and being loved. Unless there are other benefits or circumstances that make a relationship enjoyable, it seems like a big sacrifice to be with someone who doesn't love you. Everyone deserves to be fullly appreciated.
> Guys can be in it for validation too, just a different type. They want to feel like they're great lovers and have a lot of conquests, whereas women want to feel like they're desirable.
----------------Very true. I find that even if I could care less about a girl in a meeting or store, or wherever I might be, I still want her to be interested in me. It's just some basic drive that keeps the population climbing. Fortunately, I'm too reserved to ever try to bed them (or look them in the eye, for that matter).
poster:Eddie Sylvano
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