Posted by shar on September 14, 2002, at 1:13:22
In reply to Re: lowered expectations... » Dinah, posted by IsoM on September 13, 2002, at 1:29:40
NOT directly in response to previous posters in this thread, ONLY posting this because the "expectations" part caught my attention!!!
I seem to have mastered at least one thing in this lifetime, and that is unrealistic expectations. Of myself, for others, about relationships...it's almost like I lose good sense when it comes to what people (including I) "should" be or do or say or anything and everything.
I never naturally assume that if someone is rude or mean it is not my fault. I may ultimately come to that conclusion, but usually only after hours of ruminating about it. I expect that I should make everyone's day pleasant, or more pleasant, and if something is unpleasant then I've done something to make that happen. And, it finally will usually dawn on me that the other person may have been having a bad day, or not feeling too well, or could have had a headache, etc.
I do that with SO many things. It is very wearing.
Just my two bits. One comment that relates to something stated in one of the above posts (but this DOES NOT reflect my opinion or idea or feeling about the POSTER in any way whatsoever, in fact, I don't believe it could even be taken that way, but then one never knows, so it's always good to DISCLAIM ANY BAD INTENT in advance these days), but some sage (of Oriental origin if I recall correctly) supposedly said "he who expects nothing, has everything."
And that is not to be discriminatory or biased FOR or AGAINST anything Oriental or Eastern or Asian or anything like that at all, ever, forever and ever. Amen.
Shar
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