Posted by Dinah on August 28, 2002, at 6:09:37
In reply to depends on the source - long, lots of examples, posted by Medusa on August 28, 2002, at 1:25:29
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> - Comparative compliments are not well received by anyone, are they? Compliments about my appearance IRK me because they're a back-handed reference to the times when I look like crap. I once showed a therapist pictures from a holiday with my family, and she didn't recognize me in the pictures - our sessions were always in the a.m. before I went to the office, and in the holiday pix, I was in slouch gear. Styling makes a huge difference in my appearance, and I feel like that makes my emotional state SO transparent, and a "you look amazing, I barely recognized you" or even a "you look great!" feels like the comparison is implied.
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I once got a surprised "You used to be pretty!" to one of my high school pictures. I am pretty sure I was amused and not offended (because it was pretty accurate), but I sure do remember it. :)
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