Posted by terra miller on August 23, 2002, at 23:15:02
In reply to What should I expect from therapy?, posted by tina on August 22, 2002, at 14:00:12
> Ok, I've been seeing this psychologist since early february, once a week. That's a lot of hours so far. What kind of progress should I expect?
sometimes you might feel like your goals have changed, or your timetable. at this point, the kind of progress might be measured by how much have you grown to trust your psychologist, for example. when your level of trust grows, then it becomes easier to look deep into yourself because you trust them to go there with you.
>>I don't feel like I've made any headway but when I bring this feeling up, she says "it's a process, it won't get done in a day" but I'm so NOT patient. Shouldn't I be getting some benefit from this by now?
i hated getting that answer. but it is so true. but honestly, i sure wanted to see clear cut results. it was frustrating to me. looking back, i was just getting started at the point you are at (and i go twice a week... not to discourage you at all.) i'm going on 4 years and i have made total boatloads of progress. but the first few months i thought i was going to finish fast.
interestingly enough, realizing that therapy is about "the process" has affected how i deal with all of my life. i am just starting to not look at life as events to conquer (like cramming for college exams) and more as this process of life that i'm on... which makes for a much calmer me and peaceful.
> I guess I'm just frustrated. I've been screwed up for nearly 15 years now and I'm so tired.
i also know what it's like to feel so tired and exhausted. i'm so sorry you are feeling this way, too. if it helps, i truly understand.
>>I just want to be the way I was, spontaneous, adventurous, life-loving and happy.honestly, i really do think this is possible. i have worked very hard in my own therapy with a therapist that i trust. i go twice a week, so you can imagine my exhaustion level, but i am committed to working hard. as a result, i am more free and unafraid and all that you described than i have ever been, and i know that i am not remotely done with my therapy. i truly think it is possible.
take care,
~terra~
poster:terra miller
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