Posted by Kar on May 28, 2002, at 17:35:03
In reply to I threw my boyfriend out: I'm so lonely, posted by angel1 on May 27, 2002, at 20:48:42
Angel1- i haven't read all of the replies above so forgive me if I repeat. How did he react when you did this? Was he apologetic/could he verbalize why he wasn't ready or what scared him about the whole thing? I don't think the price of the ring is the issue. I think that if he wanted to do this, he could have offered another solution (get something else now, the one you liked later?) Or he could've asked you to compromise a little. It ain't the ring, it's him. You say that he always has an excuse. is that when you talk about marriage or in general? Because if he was loving, caring, respectful in other aspects of your relationship, he may just need a little more time. One thing to keep in mind (because it doesn't seem as if you're convinced that this is over-over) is whether he ever initiated the topic of marriage or spoke about you in the future tense. What was your relationship like...and one more thing, how old is he? That may have something to do with it...
Even if your friend is not supportive, try to spend time with her...doing whatever. You don't have to be talking about him. If he calls or you call him, you should have a talk about what you wanted, why you were hurt,what he wants. Maybe wait and see what he does? It doesn't neccesarily have to be over if the two of you can compromise and come up with a plan.
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