Posted by katekite on May 5, 2002, at 21:01:51
In reply to Re: Ugly.. « LiLAngelJenna, posted by Dr. Bob on May 5, 2002, at 19:12:45
I think I'm so interested in this thread because my dad used to call me names like fatty or ugly or that type of thing, around the age of 13, 14... just for about a year. (Not nearly as bad as your brother sounds). He somehow knew that was my weak spot at the time. I probably cried every day... my mother would tell me to rise above it and just see it as him in a bad mood....(she was somewhat of a victim at that time too so ended up protecting him or being in denial about it) but I didn't have that capability then. Now I see him pathetically incapable of being a parent at the time, dealing with his own depression, needing to put me down to feel better himself. And strangely I get along with him much better than my mom now, since he has grown up some, gotten older, mellowed out. Its hard to forgive my mom for not standing up for me. I guess I haven't yet. I feel pretty distant from her.
Its amazing what repeated criticism (emotional abuse) can do to someone's self esteem and relationships. We all struggle to feel ok about ourselves to begin with.
Does your brother rule the house, at least emotionally? Do you have other family or ? Sorry to pry, feel free to not answer.
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