Posted by ST on March 13, 2002, at 6:27:06
In reply to Re: Am I overreacting too?, posted by KB on March 11, 2002, at 10:01:36
I don't know...I'm for the blunt an honest approach. Call when you want. Tell him when you need to clarify things. Be specific and clear about what you want in a relationship with him. Can he give you this? I got tired of "waiting three days before calling back" and other advice I got from women. So with my current boyfriend (with each other over four years!)I promised myself no games. I figured I'd let it all hang out. If he couldn't take it, then he's not the guy for me. After all, I'm a loud mouthed, oftentimes obsessive, manic-depressive actress who needs constant reassurances of acceptance and love. It was clear we liked each other. So the second or third conversation I told him: "Look, I like you. But you need to know that I'm manic depressive. Does that scare you?"
So anyway, I'm rambling, but my point is this: you've known this guy for awhile. Can you totally be yourself with him? Does he make you feel good when you're with him? Does having him in your life make you a better person? If the answers are yes then continue to be totally honest with him about wanting this relationship and what you need. Sending him that e mail was a good start. Start an honest dialogue with him and tell him your fears. If he can handle you with all your flaws and wounds for him to see, then he's worth keeping.
Sarah
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