Posted by Fi on February 21, 2002, at 15:44:16
In reply to I wish I had different friends, posted by Rach on February 20, 2002, at 7:50:35
If she says something like that again, one approach would be to ask her- preferably calmly if you can- what things you did or said which she means. Something like that her friendship matters to you, and you want to know more about what you are doing?
That field is notorious for having a brittle, self absorbed culture. I hope you have some links with people outside it too, who are more calm and sensible!
The car accident must have been a psychologically as well as physically stressful experience for you, too. Any ways you can be nice to yourself now are a good idea. And I would agree with the advice not to dwell on what your friend said- move on?
Friends can be hard work (I dont put in enough so dont have enough, really), but are worth it.
Honest!Fi
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