Posted by IsoM on February 19, 2002, at 2:33:30
In reply to Re: grraaaaarrrh (update, long), posted by m3 on February 19, 2002, at 2:19:04
M3, I just don't know what to respond to your questions or what your therapist may be trying to get at. If she can manipulate you by pushing, can't she also manipulate you by acting with empathy? I'm *very* upfront with everyone. I can't pretend or hide my feelings or ideas that good and know I couldn't handle being manipulated. What you see is what you get - nothing less, nothing more.
Can you ask her if she can still work effectively with you by simply acting straight-forward, no games, no testing, no manipulations. Just ask her if she'll use logic & honesty in dealing with you. Really, how else can a person build trust with another?
I've never been in therapy & never plan to be so I may not have very sound advice. Like someone who lives in the tropics trying to advice an Inuit on how to dress. But all I can say is, I absolutely LOATHE it when people try to apply psychology on me instead of simply asking me what I meant. I can't imagine you like it any better, especially coming from someone who should know better.
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