Posted by Dinah on February 18, 2002, at 8:48:17
In reply to Anyone with transferance/counter-tran experience?, posted by judy1 on February 16, 2002, at 10:52:46
Hi Judy,
I certainly empathize with what you are saying. I have VERY similar fears of abandonment, and while I'm not concerned with whether my therapist cares about me, I become excessively distraught if I think he's "mad" at me.
I have trouble with all those classical psychotherapeutic terms like transference and countertransference and projection. They seem to mean so many things. What does he mean by them?
Does he mean that you are taking tension from the rest of your life and directing it towards him? I definitely do that sometimes and my therapist once said that that was a valuable function that therapists can provide. He was speaking in regard to my childhood therapist, when as a helpless child in my parent's home, it was useful to direct some of my anger at my parents towards my therapist instead. But I know from my own experience that the same might be true for the postpartum period.
Does he mean that you are really angry with him and instead of acknowledging that, you are perceiving that he is angry towards you?
Does he mean that you are subconsciously trying to make him angry with you?
Does he mean that he suddenly reminds you of someone from your past?
Or is he using the ultimate therapist cop-out. You couldn't possibly be angry with me for something I actually did. It's obviously transference.
Like I said, I have trouble with Freudian terms. If I understood what he meant I might have more to say on the subject.
But I certainly understand the fear and frustration that you are feeling.
Take care.
Dinah
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