Posted by sar on February 16, 2002, at 14:38:32
In reply to Anyone with transferance/counter-tran experience?, posted by judy1 on February 16, 2002, at 10:52:46
hi Judy,
i hope that the appointment goes well and you can deal with it by not worrying too much. Counter-transference is very close to my heart--i had a freudian psychoanalyst for a couple of months, and when i attempted suicide, she suggested that the attempt was based on rage at *her.* i explained No lady, look--my life just sucks, parents hate me, my head is bad...i see you 50 minutes a week, it's got nothing to do with you! (and, as a freudian psychoanalyst true to her profession, she offered little feedback...instead of responses it was all, "and how do you feel about that?"
when she tried to bill me after we got into a dispute, i mailed her a dream i'd had about her (she was very into dream analysis, as am i) in which she was a crazed character screaming, "and i suppoose you did that because of me!" and i was protesting, "no, no, you have nothing to do with it!!!" i mailed her this dream and she dropped a pending $500 bill.
sorry to get off track with my own situation, but my own feeling is that we all personalize information, sometimes to such an extent that it becomes dangerous. when a pdoc personalizes info about you, i believe that is dangerous. i happen to be a fairly paranoid person and believe that the world revolves around me--that everyone is thinking about me, planning their actuons around me! (i know this is completely unreasopnable.) but your pdoc sounds similar in that respect.
i would bring the issue up with him--let him know that you are privy to this transference/countertransference stuff (most patients aren't, i suspect) and scout it out from there. if he knows that you know about this stuff, he might be less likely to engage in these little wars with you.
on the other hand (and caveat empor: my hands are young), if i were battling with a pdoc via computer, i'd probably drop him. the guy sounds immature to me.
careful!
love,
sar
poster:sar
thread:18403
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20020214/msgs/18412.html