Posted by IsoM on February 11, 2002, at 12:09:26
In reply to we need more men, posted by trouble on February 11, 2002, at 11:31:24
Believe it or not, I know some 'real' gentlemen. Trouble is (no pun intended), they're already married. AND I know it's not a public act only. These men & their families are good friends of mine & I've known them for many years. I've seen them a lot around their wives & families - 'reading' people well, I can tell by the interactions that they truly are kind, loving, AND understanding.
One of them in particular is the sweetest guy I've ever met. He's no wuss - tall, good looking & strong, & would fight to the death for his family & would honestly give his life for others too. I was talking yesterday with them about a nature documentary as they're as nuts about science & nature as I am. The more enthused I became, the more my hands waved around gesturing. Conrad said "you're so cute" & gave me a big hug. He's the only man who truly feels like a brother to me & so safe. I so, so miss that sort of family interaction that I see with them. I feel like asking if they'll adopt me.
Other examples I know are often similar. One young husband's wife has been through hell with a serious long-term infection of mononucleosis, now CFS & lots of mood swings thrown in for good measure. He adores his wife & will help her through anything. She in turn adores him. There's quite a few more I know like this.
My own sons are amazing men with 'buckets' of empathy. I read once that Sally Fields (who was with Mr. Obnoxious himself - Burt Reynolds) said that her generation of women (me) raised their sons to be the type of men that they had always wanted. I think it's quite true, the sons are often a reflection into how much the mothers spent talking with & teaching them. To me, fathers give strength (I don't mean physical) to a family while mothers give heart to it.
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