Posted by IsoM on December 14, 2001, at 16:12:18
In reply to Defeated/Haunted by my own ineptitude, posted by tina on December 13, 2001, at 8:34:46
Tina, I've read so many times that it's important to think of the child in you. Before I read these things, I came to my own conclusion to treat my child lovingly - I never realised it had been recommended.
I talk to myself out loud when no one's around. I was even allowed a quiet room to myself to do my exams at university in the Disabilities Room. It was so I could talk out loud while writing the exams. If anyone was listening they'd think me nuts. I'd say "no, no, silly Judy! You forgot to include the negative sign." ..."Whoops, yes I did!"
I like the little girl inside & when I make mistakes (often) I don't get crabby with her (myself) but just tell myself to try & remember not to do it again. I'll still make mistakes & often the same ones over, but you wouldn't beat or berate your own child for failing to be perfect would you? I just say to myself I'm a silly little girl sometimes, smile & take it in perspective.
Be kind to the little child in you. She'll love you all the more for that & cooperate better. I really believe that.
**********************************************************************************************> Every day I do something stupid. something I regret. Something that causes guilt to haunt my mind. Some things may seem small to others but they are huge to me. I constantly feel as though I can't show my face outside my home. Sometimes I feel I can't show my face inside my home. I'm always terrified of what others must think of me.
> I just want to hide. I'm fine for a minute and then, I just want to run away, change my name and start my life all over again.
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> Is there a pill for this?? Am I alone in this feeling? What is it?
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