Posted by Augusta on December 4, 2001, at 14:06:53
In reply to At a crossroads, posted by akc on December 4, 2001, at 12:42:53
akc,
Here is what concerns me about your therapist's apparent position -- what does he or she say that you will "get" out of "enduring"? what evidence does he or she have to persuade you that you will indeed reap a desirable result?
I just think that the degree of pain you are in is pretty appalling, and one ought to have an *awfully* good reason for going through it cold turkey (so to speak) I know that when I was giving up drinking, or when I was waiting for an SSRI to start to take effect, I would obsessively read and re-read all the literature that suggested that my present pain was likely to result in future gain. That would be what would help me keep going.
In my (very) humble opinion, you are entitled either to some genuine symptomatic relief or to some pretty convincing reassurance as to the utility of all that you are feeling.
As far as cutting is concerned, my personal opinion (as a sometime cutter) is that what is so horrible about cutting are the feelings that drive one to it. I always think that other folks should focus on the awfulness of such powerful feelings, rather than on their own queasy reaction to the a temporary outcome of those feelings.
I guess my thoughts are clearing up as I write this, because I think my final thought would be this -- how long is this supposed to go on? I would think that your therapist ought either to be able to give you some real information about that *or* you are entitled to more assistance than you are getting.
(So what if you didn't do the whole "acceptance / cold turkey" thing this time -- you have already shown your endurance, your determination. Would it really be so harmful if you were given a respite?)
poster:Augusta
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