Posted by Roo on October 13, 2001, at 9:32:42
In reply to Re: Dependence on therapists Dinah, posted by galtin on October 13, 2001, at 7:02:46
Dinah--I can definitely relate to what you say about
feeling addicted to that safe place and seeing your
therapist as a soothing mother. I felt that way towards
my ex boyfriend, he is such a maternal, soothing presence--
he felt like the soothing mother I never had. And I, like
you had no ability to soothe and nuture myself, so I felt
dependent on him. We are still friends and I still feel
overly dependent on him for those qualities. I just
started cognitive/DBT therapy b/c I want to learn
concrete skills on how to self soothe.Galtin-Is that why you stayed in therapy for the 4th
year? Because you were still afraid to trust? I think
about that with my current therapist who I'm about
to quit seeing. Sometimes I don't feel i've made any
progress so I'm going to go see someone else...but sometimes
a part of me thinks we've developed just enough trust
for me to come upon a big stumbling block--me trusting
her enough to become angry with her, and act out in
angry ways...and I can't deal with that thought, so I'm
going to leave (basically afraid to encounter the
anger in myself)....how did you feel after the 4th
year of therapy?
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