Posted by Dinah on June 26, 2014, at 1:33:34
In reply to Re: Thanks, Phillipa, posted by alexandra_k on June 26, 2014, at 1:17:21
You think I didn't try? Have you put twenty years into working and fighting towards a relationship? Not tried?????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOT TRIED??????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
No one, including him, has tried harder than I have. And I won the prize. He openly says he cares about me like a therapy daughter. He says that he has never had another relationship (based on twenty years of hard work) with a client like he has with me, and never expects to have another. After all, the likelihood of someone else starting with him now putting in twenty years is not huge, especially not someone willing to get past what I've gotten past with him, and surviving a catastrophe the way I survived Katrina with him. Why, he cared about me 8 weeks more than he cared about any other client.
I just don't find the prize is worth the cost of trying. Twenty years of working and fighting towards relationship and he disappears leaving me the same f*ck*ng impersonal email that he left every other one of his many many clients. He leaves me in incredible pain for six f*ck*ng weeks. I suppose that his other clients didn't get any relief after those six weeks were up. But then his other clients likely didn't feel the pain of having their therapist of twenty f*ck*ng years disappear on them. Because they had only known him for weeks, or possibly months. They hadn't put in the time and the effort and the tears and the pain. They didn't get the six week call like I did, but then they didn't have to suffer the pain involved in a long term relationship ending like that either.
I'm not "giving up". Giving up implies that I am working towards something. I already achieved the best I could ever achieve. There is nothing more out there for me to work for. I got hold of the gold ring of therapy clients. Aren't I the lucky one.
poster:Dinah
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