Posted by alexandra_k on June 25, 2014, at 22:33:29
In reply to Thanks, Phillipa (nm), posted by Dinah on June 25, 2014, at 22:14:32
so... i feel a little like baseball... i feel... like i would feel different. i would feel hurt and betrayed and stuff... but with the world more generally, rather than with him in particular. but maybe... that would be too much. so... it's easier to feel that way about him in particular? or something... i don't know.
sometimes i feel like you have an alien psychology to me. i only say this because... mostly i feel like you are one of the very very few people in the world who understands me so well. and because a place like babble... one of the most wonderful things about it (for me) was that i felt like i could always be genuine about what i did and at times what i did not identify with. because there were OTHER people and there was ALWAYS a few who could. so i didn't ever feel like i had to... sort of... pretend to... when i didn't.
some of the times i think i've learned the most on babble... have been times when i really didn't feel that i understood where you were coming from at all. and you were good enough to put considerable time and effort into trying to explain to me or bob or whomever... and i think i came to understand a bit more. not perfectly, but a bit more. things like... therapists and washing machines... about particular vs role... stuff about choral colonies... small groups... inclusion exclusion... so much...
i empathise with feeling... hurt and let down. really very. meltdown... i get that. what happened with my t once i got back to australia... i can empathise with your feeling like things are irreperable. i understand your feeling... but i guess i don't really see how this prompted it. or something. i don't quite feel like i'm following along.
with respect to the privacy / confidentiality thing... i think that insofar as it affects you and is something that you are processing... i would think that you could disclose it. but perhaps not. i understand you feeling that it is not your place to talk about him... but this is about how something about him is affecting you. how you are dealing with it... anyway... i don't entirely know what i'm saying.
i'm glad you are here.
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