Posted by baseball55 on May 2, 2014, at 19:59:52
In reply to Re: Post therapy observations » baseball55, posted by Tabitha on May 1, 2014, at 23:10:08
> baseball, the relationship with your pdoc sounds really difficult. It's like the opposite situation from me-- I was overly coddled, and you're being forced to buck up. I can understand your pdoc not wanting to do therapy, some don't, but it sounds like he's putting a value judgement on it and I wonder if that's making you feel bad about needing more support and attention.
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I'm probably making him sound harsher than he is. He actually loves doing therapy. He just sees therapy as a means to an end, not something that will be continued indefinitely. After five or six years, he wanted me to cut back. I was doing better, we had gone over most of the ground that needed to be covered, but I clung on because I was so attached to him. He didn't want to encourage that attachment. I got to a point where I didn't really need therapy from him on any regular basis anymore, but I didn't want to stop seeing him either. So he agreed to continue seeing me once a month and that's what we've been doing for almost three years.Occasionally something goes wrong in my life (like recently with my marriage) and we will meet more frequently. But he doesn't encourage this. He feels that the therapy I mostly need is DBT - learning to cope with depression, feelings of despair, anxiety. So I work with a DBT therapist and he checks in with her periodically.
His major concern with me has been my intense attachment to him. He wanted to cut back once I was better so that I didn't continue to feel completely dependent on him.
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