Posted by Dinah on May 1, 2014, at 17:15:27
In reply to Re: Post therapy observations, posted by baseball55 on April 30, 2014, at 19:09:17
> I wonder about therapists who will see someone a few times a weeks for years on end without having clear goals or a clear endgame in mind. It seems to encourage people to cling to their problems in order to have something to talk about in therapy.
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> But maybe I'm being judgmental. We're all different and have different needs.I think it depends very much on the situation. To my therapist's credit, I think he was doing what he judged to be best for me. He doesn't do long term therapy as a rule. He's generally a homework handout CBT kind of therapist. He even tried, towards the beginning, to nudge me along. But he discovered that I was *extremely* sensitive to abandonment and that any slightest hint on his part would have me clinging like a barnacle. Ironically I think it was only my finally trusting him not to desert me that made it possible for me to be thinking about drastically cutting back. The last time I was at that point was right before Katrina. Then this time. I swear, it gives me an absolute terror of saying "You know, I don't really have anything to talk about. I'd like to cut back" even to myself, never mind him.
On the other hand, when I left Babble I remember wailing that now I'd have nothing to talk about in therapy. Which may have proved to be true...
But then, I have a pathological desire for sameness and stability in my life. It's very hard for me to make even the healthiest and most pleasant changes.
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