Posted by Dinah on November 7, 2010, at 21:12:30
In reply to Re: Foot in mouth - Funny (but not) therapy story, posted by emmanuel98 on November 7, 2010, at 20:01:31
How would it benefit me to neither forgive nor forget?
Because of something foolish that he regretted saying immediately?
That's not how I live my life. I forgive when there is regret, a taking of responsibility, and an attempt to change. I try to forget to maintain a relationship that is a good one.
I don't even understand the concept of remaining angry with someone who cares about me and someone I care about because of one thing they said, or even a tendency to fall asleep in my presence. He didn't do either on purpose or to hurt me. There are so many good and beneficial things in our relationship and from him as a therapist. The scales are nowhere near balanced.
I don't think the choice of not forgetting or forgiving would lead to a more fulfilling life for me.
poster:Dinah
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