Posted by fleeting flutterby on February 24, 2010, at 10:38:29
In reply to therapy or going it alone, posted by deerock on February 23, 2010, at 22:25:11
Are you like me-- in that you don't want to depend on anyone? I tend to feel mad(dont' show it though) towards the therapist as it feels like "the process" of therapy wants to render me needing someone else...... very uncomfortable....
this has lead me to discover-- "counter-dependence"..... wonder if you can relate to this?...
(copied from an article on the internet):if you are counter-dependent you tend to:
-believe that you don't need anything from anyone
-trust no one but yourself
-find it hard to feel close to anyone, even wife and children
-use violence or the threat of violence to force getting your way
-maintain a relationship only with persons who don't demand a lot of closeness from you
-resist making any commitments in a relationship
-resist asking for or showing that you need help
-be out of touch with the depth of your feelings
-deny your feelings to others
-resist showing affection
-not like touching or hugging
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If you can relate to this list then I can relate to your struggles as well.(except I never show violence) It's so frightening, the possiblity of me leaning on anyone! yipes!just thought I'd share.... maybe this isn't you at all..... anyway-- I wish you much peace.
flutterby
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