Posted by lucie lu on November 21, 2008, at 9:18:24
In reply to killer empathy..., posted by B2chica on November 21, 2008, at 8:32:39
> i'm struggling alot today. i saw T yesterday and the session itself was good. Except that we talked about a mutual aquaintance who's wife killed herself a few years ago. i never knew the details and my t brought it up. (mostly because i share similar philosopies as her)
> we were talking about my suicidality and how i view it sometimes.That is so horrible and tragic! And potentially destabilizing for anyone who is plagued by such thoughts. I'm a bit surprised that the details about the woman came into the discussion. I hope your T had a good reason for that, maybe she wanted to raise the topic anyway with you and found it an appropriate opportunity. She may figure that you'd react similarly if you encountered such a tragedy outside the therapy room, even in the newspapers, and figured it's better to deal with it directly in the safety of the therapy office. Just guessing-
> the woman we talked about choose a method that is stuck in my brain and i can't now get it out.
> i don't want to tell T that cuz i don't want her to feel she needs to tiptoe around my depressive issues..i NEED her to be able to talk to me like this.
B2c, I think now more than ever you need to trust her and I think it is important that you share your feelings all around this. I really can't see a T tiptoeing around depressive issues. That is what they do (i.e. not avoiding sensitive subjects). Maybe it would be helpful for her to know what you would like from her, what you feel is most helpful. I always assume they know, and am surprised to find that they don't. If you have a good overall relationship with her, I would trust that she has had the training to lead the way here and keep you safe while you think about these issues. I think the more she knows about your inner responses, the more effective she can be in helping you. My 2 cents!
Take care,
Lucie
> But it's one of those things like when you see a car accident happen in front of you, it sort of haunts your mind for a few days.
> well, thats' whats happening for me now.
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> i'm not only getting visuals of the method, but i can't help but think...that could be me. i feel all this horrible sorrow inside my heart as if i've done this act myself.
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> and i never even knew his wife.
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> i just really needed to talk about this with someone.
poster:lucie lu
thread:864389
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