Posted by Orchid on January 16, 2007, at 13:48:43
In reply to how do i let go, posted by shrinking violet on January 15, 2007, at 18:53:59
Maybe just accepting that you will not have answers to all your questions about her behaviour would help? Just a thought. Also I think you shouldn't strive to get her out of your mind constantly. That would only have the exact opposite result. Just accept that you cared about her, and she didn't do full justice to you for whatever reason, and she isn't great enough to explain it to you - again for whatever reason. And focus your mind on other things instead of trying to think about it again and again and trying to figure it out. And gradually your mind would be so distracted with other things, that this will become a non issue.
The only way to overcome any problem in life is to focus on other things in a productive way. Of course some amount of problem solving analysis is good, but beyond a point, if there are no answers, then simply diverting your mind is the best strategy. And we really cannot solve all our problems in life. It will keep coming in one way or the other, we just deal with it as best as we know, and then just accept the other unsolvable ones and focus on things that we can actually solve and get happiness out of.
Take care, and remember in the grand scheme of things in your life, your former T is almost insignificant. Granted she helped you and you feel grateful to that, but it ends there. Give yourself permission to move on and not hang on to her.
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