Posted by JeffSmith on January 15, 2007, at 10:25:52
In reply to Re: One More For Elaine » JeffSmith, posted by ElaineM on January 14, 2007, at 22:35:02
Elaine youre welcome and Im sorry that you have to deal with all this... I know it sucks.
I dont have a shrink but still Im really not sure if "suggesting" to any client (especially if you have an ED) to lose weight/diet/exercise is really their place/job/ethical to do. Is it? Im really not sure and maybe Id have to hear how/ in what context it was said but it doesnt sound right.
But either way, I never meant to imply he was "bad" or to condemn him at all either. Its just that he may not be able to conduct himself professionally because maybe (I suppose obviously) he's not mentally/emotionally together/healthy enough to be unable to do whats best for you.
And dont think that if you (meaning you) have observations and facts which show his behavior is inappropriate (or even harmful- or even anything else) that you are "condemning" him by thinking or talking about it/him. It doesnt make you better or worse a person than him by simply noticing/observing/discussing his behaviors and your relationship with him, etc.
Also, I only knew what ED meant this time because Ive seen it posted here before and figured it out then... but I first thought it meant erectile dysfunction. : )
I still cant figure out what "DH" is though.
> Hi Jeff. I haven't been posting much lately, so it's nice to meet you.
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> >>>>>>and meanwhile it seems your initial issues are not being addressed properly or at all.
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> No, not anymore. I mentioned it a bit in another reply here, but I was supposed to work on my fear of new people, social anxiety, fear of men and maintaining my recovery from my ED. It's not about that anymore. Oddly enough, it seems like everything is anti-"work". Especially the suggestion of weight loss/diet/exercise was suggested. (My old LadyT would've been shocked - and probably a bit pissed off) Though I've always asked for him to be honest - it's possible that losing some could be physically beneficial. What do I know. The only thing that's better is the self-harm (but I don't know whether that's because of him, or as the only positive consequence to the health problems I've been learning to cope with the past year, or even just cause I'm not emaciated and wildly unstable - I don't know) But he hasn't always been "bad". And he's not *always* "bad" now. I really don't like condemning anyone cause I'm nowhere near a better person.....*sigh* That's what makes this situation so hard.
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> Thanks for the encouragement. I hope I have good help some day. Someone who'll know everything, and only want to help me, and be trustworhty knowing all this stuff -- not just want to listen so they can report him instead. I don't expect to get it - but I hope. It's be a relief.
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> blove El
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