Posted by ElaineM on January 16, 2007, at 10:30:17
In reply to Re: Jealousy, Seperateness, NewYrs, Now -long***Tr, posted by bil on January 14, 2007, at 15:08:41
Actually, yesterday he didn't even ask at all -- though I did mention my own feelings on some things throughout. He read out more of the passages from the book I let him borrow and he interjected memories from his childhood, how he can see some of the effects still now, what his family now thought/thinks of the alcoholism.... Again, he did well, but honestly I was already preoccupied, so I couldn't keep focus all the time. It's terrible, but sometimes he was just a hum outside my "bubble hearing". I'm usually not like that at all.
He's done with it now so I doubt we'll be talking about that anymore. The rest of our communications has been interesting. We spoke about the email I sent him asking him (again!) to tell his T about me or us (*bleck*) and was running all his reasons not to into the ground. I even told him that, "T's aren't there to "steal" your feelings, or dampen the ones that seem meaningful to you. I know you don't like the idea of being told what to do with me, but there's a huge difference between someone giving advice, and listening and discussing your feelings with you - the two can be done independantly you know." And then I said, "But come on, you know all this. Is there another reason why you're resisting this?"
It's all the same stuff though. We just argue in circles about this.
thanks again, bil
blove EL
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