Posted by Tamar on December 27, 2006, at 16:08:04
In reply to Re: why can't I leave therapy? » Tamar, posted by pegasus on December 27, 2006, at 9:45:31
> >I think I want to be his cat or something.
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> Oh, yeah! I think you're on to something here. I think I always wanted to be my ex-Ts cat, and sit on his lap getting petted, or just hang out next to him with no talking. Not that the talking wasn't good, but I wanted to be around and be cared for also outside of the talking.Exactly!
> I'm sorry you are having so much trouble. I hope you can find a way to talk to your T more directly about this. It really sounds like you need to take some action, and if that can't be by leaving him, then maybe it can be by changing something in your relationship. I know you've been trying hard to do that, and it's frustrating. Maybe if you write something to him to explain, you could post it here first, to see if we think it's direct enough that he should get it? And/or maybe you could formulate an answer that you think would be helpful and appropriate for you (babble can help here, I'm sure), and give that to him so he can know exactly what you're looking for. Don't know if this would help, but I find when I'm not getting what I want that sometimes eventually just telling the other person what I'm looking for can lead to a really helpful conversation.
I do want to try one more time… I know it’s about the 15th time I’ve said this. And yeah, I think it would be helpful to get other people’s ideas about how to phrase it. I’ll put my mind to it and try writing something down…
> Anyway I wish you much much luck. It's a tricky place you're in, and I will be thinking about you.
Thanks Peg. I’ll be thinking about you too.
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