Posted by dessbee on December 27, 2006, at 12:46:00
In reply to Re: why can't I leave therapy? » dessbee, posted by Tamar on December 26, 2006, at 19:11:48
I get the feeling you are looking for secondary gain in your therapy. It is tough being depressive since many symptoms of depression makes you look for someone that will comfort you. Most professional therapists are aware of secondary gain and will avoid it some way or another. The problem seems to be that it is persistent, which may explain why you can't leave therapy.
Considering you had a bad relationship with your father, maybe secondary gain would be less of a problem if you had a female therapist.
I think your therapy should focus on CBT in order to deal with how you think about the unhealthy relationship with your father. You need to look at who your father is/was and try to find a cognitive way of accepting his flaws. This is the hard part, a good therapist will help you find those thoughts so you can move on in life.
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