Posted by RN320 on December 20, 2006, at 12:36:58
In reply to Re: Unexpectedly Having to Face T's Mortality....? » shrinking violet, posted by Lonely on December 20, 2006, at 1:41:04
Lonely,
Thank you so very much for your well thought words and advice. I think that I've pretty much already covred my bases to the extent that I can. My pdoc (in the same office as my T) has been really good at giving me what seem to be accurate updates now that I told him to please cut out what I call the "happy crap bulls&%t" and get real with me. I'm continuing to see him weekly until my T is either able to come back (he's in aggressive speech therapy right now) or not- and then we'll make a decision on who I should see if he can't come back.You're really right when you said it's comforting to have things in your possession that came from your T. I have many, and they've brought me a great deal of comfort when I read through them. In addition to that I received a really funny thank you card with a note from him last week (I sent him flowers when he came home from the hospital) and he hasn't lost his sense of humor even though you can tell he's having difficulty with finding the right words sometime.
My pdoc is very much aware of the tremendous impact that my T's illness has had on me. If he ever comes back, someday I'd like to talk to my T about it if it seems right......I suspect that he already knows how I've struggled since he became ill (because he's been into the office and talked to my pdoc, so I'm kind of assuming he asked about his patients.....that's the kind of person he is).
It really sounds like you went through hell with your T's sudden death....I just don't get it when I hear stories about T's that have no clue or compassion for people who are suffering. I just can't relate since my T and pdoc are really terriffic....I couldn't possibly ask for better support and care.
Thank you again so much for writing. I hope that you're going to enjoy the holiday season.
Best wishes.
/martha
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