Posted by Racer on March 17, 2006, at 18:06:33
In reply to Re: Guilt, boundaries, and compassion... (longish) » Racer, posted by fairywings on March 17, 2006, at 10:53:14
I got a voicemail today, saying that she's changed all her plans again -- in this case to something she had ruled out in the past, as not economically feasible -- and would I help her with some practical parts. Now, the practical parts involve me renting a van and moving furnture, which I'm willing to do, but only if I have some faith that everything won't change again in ten minutes. I really could see showing up with the van, and the furniture, only to find that now she's changed her mind again and the furniture needs to go back. While I could probably deal with that, my husband would have a fit.
{sigh}
I need to call her back, but I am afraid to. I'm afraid of how she'll react if I try to say something like, "Last Friday, that wasn't an option. Are you sure you're going to do this? Are you sure you're not going to change your mind again, and I'll have loaded up that van and then be stuck with a van full of furniture I have to find a place for?"
{sigh}
I don't know...
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