Posted by gardenergirl on December 15, 2005, at 6:43:06
In reply to Re: Feeling better. Now what? Help? » gardenergirl, posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:24:58
> I don't know if it gave her a focus or a chance to do what she felt she did best or what. Even to this day, she expresses more emotion with me if someone in my family is sick. I think it's the only way she knows how to relate to people sometimes.
That's a lot like my mom, too. I realized recently that she's been much more supportive, but that's only after I told her about some problems (the anniversary thing and so on). So it's not illness, but it is a problem. That was a bit refreshing.
>And, unfortunately, she taught me it's a good way to get attention. I swear, I spent more time out of school than in.
Oh lordy, so did I! Even when she was working and wasn't home, I often stayed home. I certainly wish she had confronted that behavior early on. It sure taught me the power of avoidance. :(
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> Sometimes when I've felt less depressed, I've noticed I have pretty productive sessions. It felt like I was able to get out of a rut and discuss things that are important but don't necessarily feel like they relate to "why am I depressed?" I think you'll find things to talk about that are important to you, but maybe not "problems", so to speak. And I'd be willing to bet you can learn even more about yourself than you already have.I hope so. I just feel like I wind up saying the same thing..."things are going well." I'll describe how, but then back to sort of shrugging and feeling lost. I'm sure it will get better.
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> Maybe you can talk about how to stay happy. What makes you feel good? What do you want the next few years (or more) of your life look like? How can you accomplish your goals?Good ideas, thanks.
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> You worked hard for this, (((gg))). I'm very happy for you. :)Thanks. :)
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> Laurie
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> P.S. You could also talk to your T about why you feel you need to keep him interested and why you fear his rejection so much, but I suppose that's a little heavier of a topic.Yeah, he asked a question late in the session Monday that sort of got this direction going. So there's definitely stuff there to talk about.
Thanks again. Always good to see your name on the boards.
gg
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