Posted by 10derHeart on November 27, 2005, at 17:01:22
In reply to Re: Just for now.... » 10derHeart, posted by Frida on November 16, 2005, at 7:48:20
Thanks for sharing that, Frida. Those are wonderful ideas to consider changing from email to letters like that. Sounds like you really did go through something similar to me. Was it hard and painful for you, too? I mean, did she used to also write answers back to your emails? That's the part I'm still missing so much. (2 weeks without emails and it feels so much longer :-( )Like I told my T., just seeing his name in my inbox, before even reading the reply, soothed me and made me feel so happy and so "seen." That really made him stop and think, and he remarked about what an awsome responsibility it is to be that important to another person. <sigh>
I'm doing better as time passes. I think, really, though I may bring up some modification of zero emails after a little while. After all, it was really me who sort of concluded from what he was saying I'd better just stop completely...he just silently agreed. So I think he'd be okay with general ones from time to time, not discussing anything too deep. But for now, to help "break me," of the constant habit, I think it's better if we don't even try that. I brought him 2 journal pages last week, so we'll see how it goes talking about those.
I really appreciated your post, Frida. Sounds like we both have good T's who care about us. A huge blessing. :-)
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