Posted by alexandra_k on November 27, 2005, at 16:42:45
In reply to just forget I ever said anything, posted by happyflower on November 26, 2005, at 21:20:13
> I was only joking,
I think that maybe what is hard about it is that you are talking about a human being here. You (and others) might well think it is amusing to joke about this...
But aren't you just encouraging yourself in something that is likely to cause you great pain ultimately?
Why is this funny?
Sorry, but I'm having trouble here...
Maybe it is a joke to you...
Have you thought about him at all?
I mean...
If you really care about him...
Aren't you concerned that if anything does happen between you that he will lose his lisence to practice?
That you could be the end of his career?
That you could damage his reputation irrevokably if you were to do what you are joking about?
Is that the kind of thing you would wish upon your 'soul mate'?Don't you think...
That if you were together that over time you would come to worry about what he is up to with his current clients?
That after 12 years of being with him you know that he could very well just up and leave having found another 'soul mate' in another client?I know you said you think you are living in reality, you aren't caught up in a fantasy at all...
But how much have you thought about the reality?
How much have you respected him as a person in your joking around?This really is a serious matter...
I hope you stick around.
People really are worried about the both of you.But maybe...
Things really have gone too far.
With all the joking around you have started to talk yourself into something...
With all the joking around you are becoming a very real threat to his professional practice and his reputation...You might want to think about that...
And think about that with respect to whether you really do love him as a person, or whether you are indulging some fantasy here.
It really isn't... A joking matter.
poster:alexandra_k
thread:582451
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20051118/msgs/582759.html