Posted by pinkeye on May 27, 2005, at 18:11:24
In reply to relationships, posted by happyflower on May 27, 2005, at 17:53:13
I really don't think my ex T felt or my current T feels anything for me. Ever.
They might sometime show interest and care - but that is because of curiosity and the case being unique. I don't think it ever gets into personal caring and liking for the Ts. It never ever does. My father was a doctor. So I know how doctors really feel. They never treat a patient personally and they never get attached. They have seen it all - murders, rapes, victims, abuses, kids dying, parents dying leaving their kids, people starving for days. Believe me - they have seen everything. And it leaves them heartless. My dad and many other doctor uncles I know, are like that. They never think highly of their patients. In fact they are outright bored, irritated, mean and cruel. I don't blame them - becuase they are also human and humans can only see so much of suffering. Beyond a point, they become cold themselves. So I think the same thing happens to Ts. After hearing lots of sad stories, they beocme really cold and unattached. If I were a T, I would have become cold long time back.
I don't really think of the T relationship as a marriage relationship or kids leaving the nest etc. Marriage is an equal dual relationshp and both parties have equal control. Plus marriage is also more long term, and there is a chance for getting your desires fulfilled. Taht is totally a different ball game. Kids leaving the nest is also different. They leave the nest perhaps, but they always come back and visit whenver they want. You don't throw the kids ouf of your nest one day and forget all about them.
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