Posted by pinkeye on May 26, 2005, at 14:38:44
In reply to criticalness= emotional abuse? :(, posted by happyflower on May 26, 2005, at 8:13:05
Dear Kid,
Don't beat yourself up like that. You know in your heart you are not your mom. Even though you think or rather afraid of it everyday in your life - if you will end up being like her and repeat the same mistakes. But guess what, you are not !!!. You have learnt from the mistakes, but have not repeated them. And you never will. Even if you unconsciously relive some of it, and repeat a mild portion of it, you are good enough to monitor yourself and change it yourslef or seek help.That is the hall mark of a good person - in fact a pretty good and decent person. We all see so many bad things and go through bad things in the world when we live. And sometimes unconsciously some of it is infringed upon us to some extent - espeically if we have to see the bad things again and again and experience them again and again. But you are such a good person, that even though only negative things were shown to you and you had to experience only negative things in life, you have managed to see the positive things and do good things to your kid and others. So what if a mild part of it is still remaining? I am sure wiht your good attitude, you will learn to unlearn it.
poster:pinkeye
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