Posted by Dinah on May 23, 2005, at 18:21:15
In reply to Re: Nope » Dinah, posted by pinkeye on May 23, 2005, at 17:52:07
Well, I suppose I won't convince you otherwise so I won't try beyond this post. You're free to believe what you want.
But in general, I'm only attracted to people along the same general type as Dr. Drew (or my husband) or who are extremely high energy. My therapist is neither. I love him, of course, as a therapist mommy. But that's it.
You don't think I've explored the possibility? Of course I have. I've looked deep within myself. Because I do think it's emotional infidelity in a way. Even though my husband doesn't want me to do with him what I do with my therapist. Even though on some level I know it's ok to appreciate my husband for what he is, and get my needs for therapy met elsewhere, with my husband's full knowledge and consent. So I've made a full and honest moral inventory with myself. If attraction had been there, I'd have found it. Because I did look for it, and was open to finding it.
I guess I find the assumption that it must be there sort of puzzling. I've had close connections with guys all my life that had absolutely nothing to do with sex beyond the interesting peek into a different point of view. And sometimes the very differences lead to a charge in the atmosphere. But I haven't even noticed that with my therapist. He could be a female for all I know, other than his lack of familiarity with the equipment.
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