Posted by daisym on April 5, 2005, at 13:15:36
In reply to Re: Mourning » daisym, posted by Shortelise on April 5, 2005, at 12:51:43
I'm sorry about the head ache. I hope dark and quiet have helped.
I think your plan is a good one. I've often said lately that the empathy I feel now for childen suffering separation anxiety is deep and real. I'm glad I didn't feel this when my children were little, I would never have been able to work.
I get what you are saying about needing your own strong core. But can I point out that when I pushed you, even a little, you showed me that you know what you need? AND you said you've developed it, at least the beginnings of it -- an internal counsel, the ability to hear your own voice in your head and trust it. I guess you just have to have faith this voice will grow louder and stronger.
I know this is impossibly hard. I wish I knew how to help. I hope I'm not saying the wrong things and making it worse. That balance of internal strength and external support is really hard to find and keep.
If nothing else, I can sit with you while you cry and give you someone to lean against.
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