Posted by Shortelise on April 5, 2005, at 12:51:43
In reply to Re: Mourning, posted by daisym on April 5, 2005, at 12:27:51
I'm still here as I had to write and send an invoice...
I am *too* dependant, so I need to learn to do this stuff for myself.
I am hoping to see him every, I don't know, three weeks, for maybe a few months, then every month for six months, then every two months for six months. Is that possible? (Of course, I am starting to cry. Migraine doesn't help. Meds kicking in.) It has to be gradual, gradual enough that I feel he is still there, like the children who have to keep checking back that Mom is still at the kitchen table, peeling potatoes or writing her thesis.
I need to be my own center, I need a place in myself where I can go and find counsel. Solace. Safety. Validation. Yes, I can get all of those things from my husband and friends, but for me, I need that from inside. It's coming. Slowly.
Thanks Daisy. Now I am going to go and fid a dark quet place and hope I don't have to take percocet. The migraine meds don't take the whole day away, but the painkillers, when I have to resort to them, do.
ShortE
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