Posted by shortelise on October 9, 2004, at 0:49:12
In reply to Direct Questions, posted by rubenstein on October 8, 2004, at 9:57:10
Absolutely yes.
Er, do I?
Hm.
Maybe I sayt hings like, I think you're angry and frustrated with me. And he says (bless his balding little heart) Are you asking me if I am angry and frustrated with you?
Most of the time that is.
I am sometimes comfortable with asking him this kind of question. It's hard because I feel vulnerable, like, so I ask him if he likes me, what if he does this big long song and dance about WHY do I want to know, HOW would it make me feel to know, ad nauseum, and then I might feel like he HATES me and is just trying to get out of having to LIE to me.
But that's only on bad days.I have had a lot of bad days. Happily, fewer now.
It's so hard to ask these questions, they're sometimes a road map to our pale, tender underbellies. But I think that a need to ask them may be an indication of growing trust.
ShortE
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