Posted by Dinah on September 25, 2004, at 23:04:29
Did you ever think you'd see me say that? But sadly, it's true. My therapist's magic no longer seems adequate to help me feel better. He's gone till Tuesday, and I'm thinking of cancelling my Wednesday appointment because I need hours at work more than I need him. I *really* need hours at work. It's not that I'm angry with him, or that he's changed. I guess part of resolving the transference means losing the magic.
It's just that I'm not altogether sure what to do without the magic.
Now there is a serious flaw in the working through transference idea. Sure, the idealization may not be realistic, but it gives some hope. Offers a hand over the bleak desperation that is life. How do you face the world without that hope?
My advice is to cling to that dependence. Cling to the transference. Not that that helped me. I clung harder than anyone. But once it's gone, what's left?
poster:Dinah
thread:395117
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