Posted by Pfinstegg on September 27, 2004, at 23:14:28
In reply to Re: Completely lost faith » mair, posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 17:02:04
Dinah, I'm being a complete pain in the neck on this thread, and I'm probably going to dig myself in even deeper now, but what you're expressing sounds like *negative* tranference. You've worked so hard, and successfully, on getting a secure attachment, and a lot of positive feelings for your T. But we all have negative feelings too- coming from parts of us which experienced pain and disappointment in the past. Those come into the relationship, too! I find those BY FAR the most depressing, isolating and difficult to deal with, but they are there, and my T reminds me, "I want ALL of you to be in here". I just have to force myself to deal with it honestly (he helps, too). I don't know if I am alone in this or not, but I find it very hard to hold in my mind at the same time that parts of me feel very loving and attached, and other parts distrustful and hateful- I want it to be only positive- but it just isn't.
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