Posted by shortelise on July 8, 2004, at 19:40:27
In reply to disturbing dream means???***possible trigger***, posted by B2chica on July 8, 2004, at 12:15:18
A beloved person is not supposed to do harm.
A child abused will be shocked. She won't know how to react. Here is a person whom she loves, who is supposed to love her, but who is doing something very hurtful. She wants to please, but is getting hurt. What should she do? What can she do? She needs this person emotionally, doesn't know what to do, doesn't know she has choices!! She is in an untenable position. She doesn't know what to do so she just freezes.
Abusers don't give choices.
Could your dream be helpful in looking at your feelings at the time of the abuse? Are you also frozen in your feelings of that time? Are you looking at yourself as the small defenseless person you were back then, or are you blaming yourself as you might have then? That poor child that was you! I feel so sorry for that child. I think she deserves to be understood, not blamed.
I guess sometimes we have to climb back into feelings and feel them in order to resolve them.
Shorte
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