Posted by antigua on May 11, 2004, at 10:20:35
In reply to How long is too long?, posted by tterees on May 11, 2004, at 0:19:59
I agree with what most everyone else said. Try to tell your therapist these things. Maybe they are coming up because now you really trust him enough to go to the hard places. Now maybe you have to take that leap of faith and plunge forward into territory you don't feel comfortable talking about.
I've been in therapy for 13 (14?) years now with the same therapist. I've also had one or two other interim experiences (different types of therapy that I've supplemented my regular therapy with) with several other therapists. All in all, my long-term is the best I could ever find. I trust her, but it's not easy. When I find that I have trouble speaking to her/bringing up a subject/or wanting to cancel my session(s), I know that something is up. I usually tell her and let her figure it out first. I don't always agree w/her, but I do respect her opinion.
Maybe you could tell your therapist that you are afraid that he will terminate you if you tell him the truth? You may be surprised at what you learn about yourself.
Also, I can relate on the male authority figure/father thing. The only way I've learned to handle it is to avoid them altogether. Not an easy thing to do, but I still haven't figured out how to resolve this one--even after 13 years!! So don't be so hard on yourself.
best,
antigua
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