Posted by crushedout on April 22, 2004, at 22:53:22
In reply to Re: I told Ellen about the consultation today, posted by pegasus on April 22, 2004, at 17:50:12
> I'm really glad to hear that you told her. I'm not sure what to think of her response. It does seem reasonable not to see two therapists at once, because neither of them would have the whole picture on what's going on for you, and so they'd both be somewhat handicapped.Yeah, except that since I haven't been able to talk to Ellen about my feelings about her, she hasn't been getting the whole picture, anyway. And I kind of felt like talking to the other T might actually *help* me have the courage to open up more with Ellen. But I agree that on an ongoing basis, it wouldn't be productive to see two Ts.
> Did you ask Ellen about the idea of a consultation with her and another therapist? To me that sounds like it might be helpful in your situation. But it would freak me out if someone suggested it for me, so I would understand if you didn't want to do it.No, I didn't bring it up, and I'm pretty sure she won't be receptive. But maybe I'll try next time. Do you have any idea how that would work?
> What about not working with Ellen for a little while, while you work some things out with the other T? Maybe even just a short while; say a month or so. That way you don't have to feel that you're losing Ellen, but you also wouldn't be doubling up on therapy, which she didn't want you to do.
I like that idea, sort of. I mean, I kind of hate any idea that means not seeing Ellen, but that sounds like a reasonable compromise. Maybe I'll ask her what she thinks.
> I hope this works out well for you. Are your feelings about Ellen changing at all lately? The tone of your posts has, so I'm wondering.This is a really interesting question. I'm not sure. How has the tone of my posts changed?
I still basically feel desperately in love with Ellen, but I guess seeing the other T made me feel a little bit stronger, less vulnerable. Maybe a little. I'm not sure.
Oh, yes, now I'm remembering: last week, when Ellen seemed so desperate and we had a double session (because *she* wanted to), I felt a lot better. Again, maybe less vulnerable, and she seemed more so.
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