Posted by DaisyM on February 17, 2004, at 22:38:15
In reply to Husbands, posted by antigua on February 17, 2004, at 18:18:06
Mixing up my husband with my father is exactly what I have been going through! Only my husband doesn't know it, he doesn't know I'm struggling with all of this right now in therapy. I told him a very long time ago (20 yrs, before we got married) a tiny bit about what happened. He assumes I'm "over it." (Gosh, so did I!) My husband is very angry at life right now so he simply can't be there for me through all of this. (I hear Fallsfall's voice telling me I don't truly know this if I don't give him a chance to help me...but I'm not that brave right now.)
My only real flashback occurred recently during sex and now I'm terrified it is going to happen again. I actually have worked up the nerve to discuss my sex life during therapy. My Therapist gave me "permission" to "fend him off" -- LOL. But it is something that comes into play when you get your feelings mix up between your husband and your father. And it is really hard to talk about.
*sigh* I'm glad I'm not the only one.
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