Posted by DaisyM on February 17, 2004, at 11:40:17
In reply to Childhood abuse triggering me ?????, posted by Kind Girl on February 17, 2004, at 9:44:04
You are most likely in what is known as the emergency stage. Have you done any reading about what to expect as you open all this stuff up? It is like being back there. You can be retriggered and the old feelings sometimes take control. Then the adult you is angry because it does seem over-the-top needy and clingy. And the pain isn't about the present, it is about the past. But since we can't change the past, we stay angry in the present.
What other supports do you have, besides your Therapist? It seems important that you have someone else to sit with, who can just let you feel what you feel. Someone who doesn't want to make it better, who doesn't want to cure you, tell you to get over it or be your Therapist. Try to think of just one person.
Let me know if you like to read, I'll recommend some books. It would help to know if the trauma was violence or sexual, or both. Different books.
Keep posting. It helps. I've been where you are (as early as yesterday...). You are not alone.
-D
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