Posted by Solstice on January 5, 2011, at 16:05:33
In reply to Re: What can I do?, posted by Dinah on January 5, 2011, at 15:08:36
> > I can't help but think of Ceasar (Dog Whisperer) and his technique of how dogs handle unruly members of the pack. The dog isn't banished - but the rest of the pack will make it unbearable enough for the unruly dog that he/she eventually learns to manage their behavior in order to co-exist within the pack. The social pressure (and disruption) goes away when the objectionable behavior goes away.
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> Of course, it not infrequently happens that a dog is driven away from a pack without fences. That may be seen as a very good thing by the pack. Occasionally a dog will even be seriously injured before it limps, bleeding, away. Or worse.You're right - that aspect can certainly exist - but that's not what I was thinking of. Of course with Cesar, he's always there to prevent that kind of thing from developing. Maybe that's why closer moderation here is important.
> Funny thing is that the kids from middle school would have said the same thing. I exhibited behavior that was objectionable to them. They savaged me right out of their pack to another school.And that's horrible. I did not mean to imply that ANYone should be treated that way. Legitimately objectionable behavior can be rejected, without rejecting the person. When I say 'objectionable behavior,' I'm talking about behavior that is causing harm to others.
> You think of this as a *good* thing?Absolutely not.. and I'm sad that it has sounded like that to you.
> We truly see things from different points of view.Not necessarily.. because I don't think my point of view is accurately understood. I regret that.
> It's hard for me to believe that this is Bob's new vision of Babble.It might not be fair to yourself to draw conclusions right now about Bob's vision for Babble.
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