Posted by alexandra_k on May 6, 2009, at 23:55:03
In reply to Re: Subject line change, posted by Dinah on May 6, 2009, at 19:06:22
I don't think he sees it as 'manipulative' to be sure, even though he did say something to that effect. More that... He thinks that when he thinks someone has violated the rules that person really has been hurtful to others. Disrespectful. And he seems to think that a friend would... Well... What exactly? Encourage them to apologize. To avoid a blocking. It isn't about civility or respect (in some genuine sense of the term). It is about avoiding a blocking. I see. Bob saw the good and came back and now he's telling the folks the noble lie about the nature of civility. mmm hmmm.
> I see it differently than you do, but I respect that that's how you see it, and I respect your decision.I do respect you Dinah. I know it is hard... Dinah is my friend. Deputy Dinah... Well... That is a different role. One can respect a person without respecting everything they do. I respect (and like) Dinah a great deal. I have empathy for Deputy Dinah but... I don't condone the role anymore. I do greatly respect some of the decisions you have made in your Deputy role. The fairness that I've seen. The not blocking the way Bob would aspect to some of your decisions. I know you don't agree with him on everything... But... Attempts to justify his decisions make me feel nauseous (in the sense of I have a physiological reaction).
> Some people were trained up... So Bob is happy with them. Good for Bob. I'm not so terribly sure... That things are good for them. And there it is.
> I'll assume you don't include me in those some people. You surely know me well enough to know that I don't train well. :)I dunno. You train your therapist... I imagine that (to a certain extent) your therapist trains you. Not so you are aware of it of course... I'm thinking more of posters like Deneb. Deneb is Deneb is Deneb. Same person who has been posting here for a while. She's had ups and she's had downs. Bob didn't accept her for a while there. Required her to change how she expressed her emotions. Lou was required to change his posting style, too. Three post rule only really seems to apply to him. Some posters change... I'm not sure that it makes them better people even though it makes them more acceptable to Bob. You gotta change. You gotta mold... If he doesn't have that impact then you'll be up for a blocking sooner or later. He's predictable like that. Just because he can.
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